
This picture was taken, guess where, at the XiHu, in the evening. As I was walking around the shores of the lake, I saw this young couple posing for photographs. I sat quietly wherever I could, and took pictures of them quietly. I took pictures of them posing, and also while they were sitting quietly between shots.
It was a beautiful autumn evening, and the West Lake really can be a very a romantic place to get photographed. No doubt, this young couple was preparing their wedding album, something that in the days to come, would find either a place of pride in their shelves; or gather dust as the drudgery of routine takes control of their lives; or even be a piece that would embarrass them in the event of a divorce. For the bitter one, in such an event, this would become a hated memory, however, for the other, it would become a sad reminder of what happiness they once shared.
Photgraphing the marriage album takes about a day, and the couple is obliged to go through several changes of costume, and to be photographed in several locales. At the end of the day, I am sure, they both feel exhausted, rather than romantic. The marriage album is something that is often displayed at the "social wedding".
In cities, the couple often gets their wedding registered at the local registrar. The "social wedding" ceremony, to which friends and relatives are invited, takes place later. One young girl in my office had her "social wedding" one year after the registered marriage. This again is a very different kind of event from what we Indians are used to. There is no such thing as a typical Indian wedding. There are many big, fat Indian weddings, but no typical Indian wedding. Even in Punjab, where I come from, the Sikh weddings are completely different from the weddings of non-Sikhs.
Anyway, the Chinese couple, during their wedding, are also obliged to undergo several changes of dress. There is, often, a stage, a slide show, speeches, and much merriment. The guests have fixed places to sit, which can be a relief!! At the end, the friends gather round, and make the hapless couple play "marriage games". At this point, I shall cast a discrete veil over further descriptions. Maybe, I shall come back to them another day.
Many people love getting these albums made for themselves. My boss, and his German wife went through the process, as did an Indian family I know well. The result is a series of sanitd potographs in an album, in which the coupl look as they have had more cosmetic surgery than a film star, and as if they have been scrubbed clean with Dettol.
The whole process used to cost one day of your life, and between 300 & 500 Euros. I am not sure if inflation has caught up with this business. However, this is indicative.
I did think of going through this, but I chickened out at the last minute. While I blamed my kids for this, I too baulked at the idea of spending a day being photographed.
In any case, I look like a frog when I am photographed, so I guess I am none the poorer for not having had this album made for myself!!
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